Friday, April 17, 2020

High Five for Friday (4.17.20)

Day 2,396 of social distancing...

I hope you and yours are healthy, (relatively) happy, and finding silver linings as we continue living the quarantine life.

At the risk of jinxing myself, it seems that after about three weeks of pandemic schooling we finally found our groove. (To clarify, as of today we have finished five weeks pandemic schooling. But I felt like we kind of figured it out - thankfully - a couple of weeks ago.) Our days include school-guided academics, independent academics, fine arts, physical education, soccer training, dance classes, and occasional lessons in Real World Adulting. I've also come close to figuring out my own daily schedule, how to exercise effectively in my living room, how to shop online for groceries, and how to "get together" with my family members and friends over Zoom and Instagram. We miss our lives pre-quarantine, and like all of you we are grieving lives, time, hard work, and experiences lost, but we are pretty darn good at staying home when that is what is asked of and needed from us.

Moving on...

Here are a few of our high fives from the last couple of weeks!


One
On Friday, we celebrated Hallie's birthday. The day was - of course - simple, but in the best possible ways. And even though there were no family trips, wild parties, extravagant gifts, or celebrations at school or dance, I think Hallie felt as loved as she ever has on a birthday thanks to quality time with her family; the many calls, texts, emails, cards, and gifts; and the very best Birthday Brigade.

Our traditional birthday "room full of balloons".

Ready for the birthday girl!

Will insisted on arranging the birthday confetti.

Hallie asked for a cat stroller for her
birthday. She LOVES it. Tux HATES it.

Opening presents.

Tackling this one scared me, but
it turned out beautifully in the end.

And she loved it!

Ready for her birthday brigade!

One of Hallie's friends, Abby, turned 11 the day before Hallie, and Hallie and I of course participated in Abby's Birthday Brigade. That evening, Abby's mom - my friend Anne - wrote this about their experience.

And then, there were the friends who ALWAYS show up when called, who have stepped in to support and love Abby in so many ways, who formed a parade of cars down our street, complete with signs, smiles, gifts, music, and even dancing, who left me and her dad in tears; there were dance friends.

I'm borrowing these words from Anne because if you swap out "Abby" for "Hallie", the sentence perfectly summarizes how this group of women and their dancing daughters steps up and in when one of their own needs ANYTHING as well as the incredible impact these relationships have had on our lives. This special new tradition is absolutely, positively my favorite thing to come out of this season, and I hope that when the world eventually shifts back to business as usual we can keep it alive.

I know that to some people this is just a series of photos of mom-mobiles driving by my house. But to me, each of these photos represents a friend of mine and a friend (or friends) of Hallie's, and is evidence of the love this community so generously shares. 




















Two
As was the case for everyone celebrating last Sunday, Easter for us looked different than it has in years past. We slept in, delighted in the contents of our baskets, and hunted for chocolate eggs before welcoming church into our living room. We went for walks and bike rides, played outside, worked in the yard, and connected with our families and friends. I also prepared my calendar, our Zoom schedules, and the kids' school lists for the week. It was a day spent thinking about and focusing on faith, family, and friends, which is all that really matters.
The Easter Bunny made it, but Mom helped him out.

Caffeinating up before the egg hunt.

Can you spot the chocolate egg?

Our neighbors put out little bags and "hid" eggs for kids to find.

Painting Easter egg cookies.

Three
Every year the kids and I go out for ice cream the minute the temperature reaches 90 degrees for the first time. Mother Nature decided to gift (or punish, depending on how you feel about summer) us with summer-like weather last Wednesday afternoon, so even though we couldn't visit our favorite Farmhouse Creamery ice cream shop, we kept our tradition alive by making ice cream cones in our kitchen. Thank goodness for an accidental order of three extra half gallons of ice cream earlier this month!



Four
Also last week (or maybe it was the week prior - no one keeps track of the date or days of the week anymore), one of our dance company moms organized a simple scavenger hunt as a fun but safe activity to get us out of the house when we needed a break from coronaschooling. Each participating family wrote a clue that would lead searchers to a hidden item in their yard. When the item was found, we took a picture with it and sent it to that family as a way to say hello. We found all of the treasures and had a great time (even Will, who didn't want to go in the first place) along the way!

A rock painted with a sweet message. 😍
A roll of toilet paper.  😂

Five
Happiness Highlights

She misses you too, CG. 

Found this on my desk last Monday morning.

She can't watch Friends just yet,
but she was a fan of their puzzle!

I finally started cashing in the coupons Hallie gave me
for my birthday last year. Clean Your Bathtub - check!

Dance Moms Night Out on Zoom!

Both Tom's mom and my mom made us masks. Hallie and I have
small heads, but we figured out that pigtails make them fit us better!

Cuties in Quarantine!

All dressed up for music video dance night (she
learned and performed "It's Good to be Bad" from
Descendants) for Apprentice Company.  

School supplies and books outside of Hallie's school. 😍

Before...

...and after. Professor Mohawk, at your service!

Happy Friday, friends!

Tuesday, April 14, 2020

Small Business...Tuesday: Shopping Local, Shopping Small

One of my favorite developments to come out of this last month is the general public's commitment to shopping local. Knowing that the only way to keep small businesses open during this pandemic - or viable enough to reopen post-pandemic - is by making purchases now, many people are coming out (figuratively speaking) to support their favorite restaurants, bakeries, coffee shops, gift shops, boutiques, bookstores, artists, photographers, and home-based businesses.

So today, I thought it would be fun - and hopefully beneficial to these businesses - to share some of my favorite places to shop local. I also decided to share a few of my favorite small businesses located elsewhere in the United States, but from which you can still order products, food, gifts, etc. Here we go!

First, these are some of our favorite small businesses in the Brazos Valley. The first section of the list includes establishments from which we have already shopped or ordered during this season, the second section of the list includes establishments we hope to support soon, and the third section of the list includes establishments we love and coincidentally visited immediately prior to the implementation of social distancing. (Links included when available.)
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Second, these are some of my favorite small(ish) businesses found elsewhere in the United States. I have recently ordered from all of them except Lindsay Letters Co., though I ordered from Lindsey back in December and again in January.

Third, because of intriguing Facebook ads, I tried ES Provisions' pretzels and Cheryl's cookies, and the goods we received from both were delicious! I've also ordered a few new and used books - I Mom So Hard for me, the next three books in The Babysitters' Club series for Hallie, and The Diary of Anne Frank for all of us - from small, independent bookstores.

A note about spending... 
We're not wealthy, and I'm not spending thousands of dollars shopping online for things we don't need. But we are among the lucky ones who still have jobs and who can work from home without a great deal of trouble, and because of that, I am more than willing to support the small businesses I know and love and that I hope will weather this storm. 

Many of our purchases have been edible; we order takeout on Saturday nights and maybe one additional time during the week, and I've taken advantage of quite a few different take-and-decorate kits local bakers have offered. I bought presents for Hallie's birthday and small gifts for both kids for Easter, essential oils and hand sanitizer from my favorite non-toxic brand, a couple of "just because" gifts for friends, my Simplified Planner for the 2020-2021 school year, and materials for cooking and art projects at home, and we've continued to pay for dance and soccer, even though those activities look vastly different today than they did just a month ago.

And a note about shipping...
I read an article about how we shouldn't be ordering products online right now because doing so is putting warehouse employees as well as FedEx, UPS, and USPS delivery drivers at risk. I understand both sides of this argument (yes, the comments associated with this article absolutely constituted an argument) and fully acknowledge that in these unprecedented times it is virtually impossible to perfectly balance economic health and physical health; the tide needs to ebb and flow based on the biggest needs and the greatest risks at any given time. I have to hope and pray these employers do their part by creating safe work environments, so their employees can do their part by delivering goods, so I can do my (minuscule) part by making purchases to keep people employed and the economy stumbling along. I'm not going to delve any more deeply into this topic, but I will mention that whenever possible, I choose porch pick-up or drop-off (for local purchases), the slower shipping option (to allow essential items to be delivered more quickly), or to consolidate my purchases into as few shipments as possible (so delivery personnel make fewer trips to my house). We're all doing the best we can, and trying to help in whatever way makes the most sense given our current circumstances.

Last week we wrote thank you notes to our mail carrier and a
couple of days later we received a lovely message in return. 

Last but not least, these are my favorite social media sites these days.

Happy Tuesday, friends. As best you can, be kind, do your part, and wash your hands.

Friday, April 10, 2020

High Five for Eleven

Today my baby girl turns 11 years old.


She is kind and gentle, clever and creative, strong and brave. She works hard and plays hard. She loves to move her body with wild abandon, but also to sit quietly with her thoughts. She fears the unknown, but is not afraid to stand her ground. She worries about failure, expectations, and perceptions, but with encouragement and support is willing to try. She reacts ferociously when something upsets her or rocks her boat, and exuberantly when something pleases or pleasantly surprises her. Her emotions cannot be tamed, and I continue to try - some days more successfully than others - to let her (in a manner that doesn't hurt her or anyone else) feel every last one of them.

10 was a tough year for Hallie. She broke her wrist and injured her knee, both of which required medical intervention for extended periods of time and kept her from dancing as much - and as freely - as she would have liked. She struggled through quite a few months of noticeable, uncomfortable, and even painful Tourette's tics. She transitioned from elementary to intermediate school, and while she did incredibly well academically and fell in love with her teachers, as a "young" (socially, emotionally, and chronologically) fifth grader, she found herself confused by and uncomfortable with some of the kids, behaviors, interactions, and relationships she encountered. She fell slightly short of a few of her dance goals, which brought about feelings of doubt and negativity for the first time. And she continues to fear growing both up and older, which, when combined with an onslaught of tween hormones, leaves her scared and unhappy more often than ever before.

I had - no, I have - high hopes for 11. Her birthday celebration and the beginning of her year may not look like what we had originally pictured in our heads, but that doesn't mean the year as a whole can't still look and feel beautiful. I wish for her a year free from illness, injury, and health complications. I hope that when school eventually reopens, she finds her footing both academically and socially. And I pray she finds confidence as a student, growth as a dancer, compassion as a friend, peace with her changing mind and body, and strength as she navigates the complicatedly dynamic world around her.

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Eight years ago I began the tradition (2012, 2013, 2014, 2015, 2016, 2017, 2018, 2019) of sharing a song - one that reminds me of her and encompasses what I hope for her as she grows older - with Hallie on her birthday. I usually know Hallie's songs by the end of the first time I hear them, primarily because they bring tears to my eyes. I heard Wildflowers by the Wailin Jennys months ago, when a local flower farmer played it in the background of one of her Instagram Stories. I immediately messaged her to ask the name of the song, and when she responded I bookmarked Wildflowers to use on this day. When I know, I know.



You belong among the wildflowers
You belong in a boat out at sea
Sail away, kill off the hours
You belong somewhere you feel free

Run away, find you a lover
Go away somewhere all bright and new
I have seen no other
Who compares to you

You belong among the wildflowers
You belong in a boat out at sea
You belong with your love on your arm
You belong somewhere you feel free

Run away, go find a lover
Run away, let your heart be your guide
You deserve the deepest of cover
You belong in that home by and by

You belong among the wildflowers
You belong somewhere close to me
Far away from your trouble and worry
You belong somewhere you feel free

My sweet girl, in all my days I have seen no other who compares to you. You belong somewhere you feel free...somewhere you can express yourself fully...somewhere you can give and receive love, explore all things bright and new, find shelter and refuge from the storm. You belong somewhere you feel free, and while I hope you always feel free while close to me, I suspect you will also always find freedom among the wildflowers.

Happy 11th birthday, baby girl. Mama loves every single thing about you.


A special thanks to Shannon Morton of Shannon Morton Photography for always doing such a beautiful job of capturing my girl.

Tuesday, April 7, 2020

Monthly Medley: March 2020

Reading
Just a few days prior to social distancing, Hallie and I popped into the library to pick up a few books. Since Will wasn't with us, I spent a little time wandering around the young adult fiction section on my never-ending search for books he hasn't read. I spotted Life and Death, Twilight Reimagined on the end of a row, and decided it would be fun to reread - but a different version - of Twilight. I actually really enjoyed the novel, enough that I may read the entire series again once I make it through the rest of my library books.


Watching
I have a rather long list of movies and television shows to share this month (don't we all?) so I'll keep my descriptions and assessments short and sweet!

  • A Dog's Purpose - entertaining and emotional. You'll need tissues.
  • Happy Gilmore - two hours of laughing out loud. Language is a little rough.
  • Swiss Family Robinson - old fashioned family fun. Prompted lively dancing.
  • 50 First Dates - gentle, sweet, and endearing. Hallie adored it.
  • The Middle - hysterically relatable. Recommended by lots of friends. 
  • Frozen 2 - this will all make sense when we are older. Even Tom and Will enjoyed revisiting Arendale.


The kids have also been watching the Cincinnati Zoo's daily live streams and Will in particular has really enjoyed getting to know the animals. Tom and Will have also started watching all of the Marvel movies in chronological order, so I'll keep you posted on how (long) that saga goes...

Listening To
When I asked Hallie to help me remember what we'd been listening to this month, the only song we could come up with was the PJ Panda Happy Birthday Rap, which we have begun playing on our Birthday Brigade rides. It's a completely ridiculous song, but now that we associate it with visiting our friends via drive-by on their birthdays, it feels festive and fun.



The front half of the line for one of our many Birthday Brigades.

We drove with the windows down the entire ride -
what a simple gift, to feel the wind in our hair again.

Trying/Using
I have a rather long list in this category as well. Here we go!

  • Zoom - heard of it but never used it before this month. Took us a few days to figure it out, but now the kids are experts and we Zoom multiple times a day.
  • Messenger Kids - didn't need or want it until this month. Love listening to Hallie tell her friends she misses and loves them as she signs off.
  • Marco Polo - similar to Messenger Kids. I think. Ask Hallie.
  • Chromebook - grateful for these on so many levels. Kids learning on their devices. Erin and Tom working on their devices. Thanks, Grandma!
  • Mossa Move - LOVE. Missed these classes when our gym changed ownership and switched to a different program. A walk outside + 30 minutes of Mossa = 10,000 steps a day as well as physical, mental, and emotional health. 
  • Typing Club - free typing program for kids. Hoping Hallie's "hunt and peck" days will soon be a thing of the past.
  • Starbucks Reusable Cups - shared previously. Loved continuously. Easter set makes me happy every morning. 
  • Haircuts by Mom - scary. Not a total disaster.


Wearing
Getting dressed during a pandemic is hard, amiright?! I start each morning in athletic clothes, just as I did when the world wasn't crashing and burning around us. I stay in these clothes for my workout and the rest of the morning, while the kids are working on school and I'm working on blog posts and articles. But then, even though it would be SO easy to stay in my casual, comfy clothes for the remainder of the day, I make myself shower and get dressed in jeans and a t-shirt. Nothing fancy, but I've decided that on week days I need to wear a regular bra and pants that don't have an elastic waistband.

I'm also eagerly awaiting this shirt, from Saturday Morning Pancakes, which I'll probably wear every day from here on out:

Eating/Drinking
There's lots of cooking going on around here! (But not as much baking because #flourshortage - seriously people, stop hoarding the flour.)

  • We had this Chicken, Cranberry, and Pecan Salad Wraps for dinner, but the salad on its own made great leftovers for lunch the following day. When making it again, however, I'll add chopped onion - in my opinion, onion makes just about all savory dishes better.
  • This Sheet Pan Roast Tenderloin with Potatoes was a hit with everyone, which as you likely know, doesn't happen often in our house. I followed the recipe exactly.
  • Skillet Keto Chicken with Bacon Mushroom Gravy was also popular - I don't think we had any leftovers! I opted for the cream cheese thickener rather than the arrowroot powder and butter combination.
  • This Mushroom, Spinach, and Sausage Spaghetti was another crowd pleaser just as the recipe was written.  
  • Last but not least, these Strawberry Cupcakes, which I made for a friend for her birthday at the end of February. (I didn't have time to add the recipe to last month's medley.) I reduced the sugar to 3/4 cup and used plain nonfat yogurt in place of sour cream. I also made my own frosting using equal amounts butter and cream cheese, strawberry puree, and just enough powdered sugar to stabilize the frosting. (For those of you wondering about that approximation, for a batch of frosting that uses 8 ounces of butter and 8 ounces of cream cheese, I usually use about 2 cups of powdered sugar, compared to the 4 cups this recipe calls for.)

Feeling Good About
Because we can all use something to feel good about right now.


What's new and interesting in your world this month? Anything fun to share?

Friday, April 3, 2020

Flashback Friday: The Great Photo Sort

While both of my parents are retired, neither stay at home all that much...or at least they didn't until the Great Social Distancing of 2020.

Now that they're home all day every day, they decided to tackle a project that has needed attention for most of my adult life: 45 years of photos. They've been taking photos out of old albums, gathering photos that had been pulled from albums already, tossing duplicate photos, and sorting all of the photos chronologically. (For a day or two, my dad sorted photos by person because "it's more fun that way". My mom had to put the kibosh on that illogical system.) My mom purchased new albums so that once this step of the project is complete, they can preserve the saved photos - in some semblance of order - for decades to come.

Their massive photo undertaking inspired me to pull out the actual photos I still have and sort through them. Yet to tackle - but still on my list - are my digital photos...that feels more daunting, so perhaps I'll address them later this spring.

Along the way, my mom has been taking photos of a few she thought I'd want to see and sending them my way. I decided to take photos of a few of mine as well, mostly because I wanted digital copies (and my scanner is broken) but also because I wanted to share certain ones with specific people. But now I've decided to share a selection of them here as well, because as much as I love my High Five for Friday posts, I needed a break from them this week.

So here you go - a few fun flashback photos that likely haven't made an appearance here before.
That's Tom (on the right with the long hair), in a University of
Iowa publicity photo. He's in a brochure somewhere out there!

In honor of our recent polar plunge and swimsuit
snow angel tradition
, here's my dad, snow tubing
down the snow slide we/he builds down from the
deck and across the backyard.

Baby's first bar crawl! Also the night of God's Donut...

A favorite of me, my mom, and my sister.

Throwback to our Backstreet Boys days. (To
clarify, these were costumes for a skit.)

This is how Will feels about online learning.

Prom 1997

Perhaps our best snowmen ever!
(That's me, circa 1981/82.)

Tom and...Will. I was trying to prove my
point - that little babies don't look male or female
based on features - to Tom. I think I succeeded.

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I went through some rough years style- and fashion-
wise. My sister, on the other hand, was always cute.

My parents, on the steps of their/our first house. I
have and still regularly wear that shirt of my mom's.

Our wedding!

Will and Duke. They were best buddies.

The flowers and cake at my parents' wedding.

One of my favorite pictures from the first
Christmas after Tom and I were married.

He's always been cautious...in this case, perhaps rightfully so.

First Christmas!

"I love you, Daddy."

"And you too, Mama."

Ah, to be young (and free to travel) again...

High school soccer spring training in Jamaica. Definitely a
highlight of my high school years and my soccer "career".

Tom climbing onto my roof at one of our college
parties. In a strange way, I feel like this photo
sums him up. 😂

Remember when my mom made matching
Nutcracker baker costumes for Hallie, Kara,
and Avery
? It wasn't the first time she's been
asked to make matching outfits for her
(grand)daughters and their friends.

Will's first french fry. Worth documenting his sweet face.

One of my favorite photos of me and my sister.

Third row for the Indigo Girls at the first Lilith Fair.

When I was a little girl I used to look
at these three pictures all the time. That's
me, taking a nap, and my sister, stealing
my cotton ball (which I rubbed my nose
with) and then my Winnie the Pooh.

I still can't believe my parents let me go on a spring break trip with
friends during our senior year of high school. Clearwater Beach 1997!

Me and my Grandma Geri.

Just about everyone who knows me, my sister, and our kids in
person has agreed that this picture of my sister and me could just as
easily be a picture of our kids, Lily and Will. Genetics are crazy...


Well now that that's done, I guess there's nothing left to do but tackle the digital photos...send help.