Don't Cry Because It's Over

Smile because it happened.

~ Dr. Seuss

Today Hallie finishes elementary school. I can hardly type that sentence without bursting into tears, as it feels like just yesterday I walked her through the front doors of her elementary school and delivered her to her kindergarten classroom for the first time.

For me, the baby and toddler years moved at a glacial pace. The preschool years passed by a bit more quickly, but the elementary school years? I blinked and found myself suddenly at the finish line.

Hallie begins intermediate school in less than three months, and I have no doubt those days and weeks and months will fly by more quickly than I'd like. I feel nothing but proud of the incredible young woman she is becoming, but what I wouldn't give to hold onto these big little girl years for just a while longer.

I should have started with a bigger shirt... 😂

Sweet girl...today may feel like an ending, but it is also the beginning of your next beautiful and exciting adventure. You can handle whatever comes your way as long as you remember to work hard, to be kind, and that your mama loves you.

Cheers to Lasts

I wasn't sure what kind of picture best fit with
a post about lasts...so I decided on this one of
these two besties on their last field day.

I mentioned a couple of weeks ago that this semester has felt like one long farewell to childhood. As Hallie prepares to leave elementary school at the end of this week, I find myself experiencing quite a few "lasts" myself, both as a member of Will and Hallie's elementary school's PTO and as an elementary school parent. My last Boosterthon, my last music program, my last holiday party, my last Variety Show, my last fundraiser, my last field trip, my last picnic, my last field day, my last meeting...the list goes on and on.

A few years ago I read an article about how, when it comes to parenting, we often don't realize when we're doing something for the last time. We don't know when we're washing hair or tying shoelaces for the last time that we're washing hair or tying shoelaces for the last time. It isn't until days or weeks or even months have passed that we realize we are no longer handling that task for our children...and that realization, that figurative blow...when it happened to me for the first time (and the second time, and the third time), it sucked the air out of my lungs. I felt just as I remembered feeling when, as a third grader, I fell off the monkey bars and landed on my back. With the wind knocked out of me and my body temporarily in a state of stunned paralysis, I couldn't move, I couldn't breathe, I couldn't cry...I couldn't do anything except panic quietly inside my own head.

As I ponder lasts of all kinds, I find myself wondering: is it better to know when a last is approaching so you can prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for the ups and downs that will inevitably accompany the experience? You might feel sadder while experiencing the last, but perhaps you might also feel more appreciative? Or is it better not to know when a last is approaching so you can fully experience and enjoy the last, but then have to deal with the sudden onslaught of complicated and often painful emotions when they hit days/weeks/months later? I have yet to determine the answer to these questions.

I know that on Friday Hallie and I will walk out of Rock Prairie Elementary School for the last time. I know I must prepare for the onslaught of emotions I will undoubtedly feel that day. I just wish I knew if all that knowing will make the transition easier. I guess I'll find out.

I cherish everything I have learned and the wonderful people with whom I have had the opportunity to work throughout these last seven years. I plan to spend a portion of Friday up at school saying goodbye (I also plan to bring tissues), but if I miss you - there's no way I can find, hug, and say thank you to all of the teachers, administrators, staff members, and volunteers with whom I have worked - please know how extraordinarily grateful I am for your impact on our elementary school lives.

Cheers to lasts, and the new beginnings to which they lead.

High Five for Friday (5.17.19)

Since last Friday's post had to do with Mother's Day, this week's High Five for Friday post covers a couple of weeks' worth of high fives.

One
I am fairly certain there is no way - at least if you have school-aged children - to NOT feel overwhelmed in May. I liken the month to a marathon, except that instead of running at a slow and steady pace, we are expected to run at top speed for all 26.2 miles. My legs sure are tired...

Two weekends back, combinations of the four Ferri celebrated the (near) end of the dance year with our annual Mini Company pool party, celebrated a friend's birthday at Altitude, enjoyed a production of Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat put on by our local theatre company, auditioned for Apprentice Company for the 2019-2020 dance year, performed at a music festival in Houston, celebrated a great performance at said music festival at Splashtown Water Park, and worked on the lawn and the Mad Science Laboratory. The weekend was crazy, but we had so much fun with each other and our dance, soccer, school, and neighborhood friends.

Mini Company 2018-2019

Hallie with the Narrator and Joseph.

Trying to keep ourselves distracted/occupied while
our girls were auditioning for Apprentice Company

Wine and a fabulous charcuterie board helped.

About to perform at the Splashtown Music Festival. They received a high
score from all of the judges, and the cellos received a "best section" award!

Home again, home again, jiggity jig!

Two
Throughout all of last week we celebrated both the teachers and the nurses in our lives - we know and love some of the best!

Three
Last week we also knocked out an orchestra concert, a soccer banquet, and my last two PTO meetings of the year, one of which was my last PTO meeting EVER (after SEVEN years!!!) at Will and Hallie's elementary school. These end-of-the-year events serve as a wonderful reminder of how far we - the kids, yes, but also me, in my role as a PTO Board member - have come in our various endeavors.

Will was tremendously proud to have earned second chair for
this concert. His placement, however, meant I could only see and
photograph him when he stood up to adjust his music stand.

Post-concert breakfast for dinner at our new IHOP.

Four
Dance dress rehearsal weekend always feels like a full weekend commitment because I spend all day Friday prepping costumes, hair supplies, make up, activities, and snacks; all day Saturday at the rehearsal itself; and all Sunday unpacking and reorganizing everything for the actual performance two weeks later. Thankfully, this year's dress rehearsal went fairly smoothly...and I didn't sit in pee!

Each of those five bags contains a costume, tights, shoes, and a
hair accessory. On the floor are a batch of cookies, a bag of candy,
transition shoes, a nude leo, a jacket, make-up, and hair supplies. The
backpack contains another change of clothes, activities to help
pass the downtime, and snacks. And that is just Hallie's stuff. 

Ready to get this show on the road! 

Five
Happiness Highlights

Mini Company members of the month. 

He still loves boxes.

Hallie's official ballet portrait.

The aftermath of my bathroom "duck and cover"
during our most recent tornado warning. Note the
kitty in the back of the photo - he willingly kept me
company in the bathroom with me the entire time. 

Will's 6th grade black bear habitat. I add "6th grade"
because Will also made a black bear habitat in 2nd
grade. Too bad we didn't hang on to that one...

Working on her own bun!

Happy Friday, friends!

Get Out of Jail Free Card

Intending to take a picture of our Monopoly game's "get out of jail
free" card, I opened the door to the game closet. Yikes. I never did
find the game so this photo - of the mess - will have to do. Tackling
this closet will be our first project come summer vacation!

Sometimes after an exceptionally busy week month all of 2019, I cash in one of two or three "get out of jail free cards" I allow myself to use when it comes to the blog. Instead of new content, today you'll find a fun compilation post to hopefully provide you with a thought-provoking read, an emotional pick-me-up, a mental reset, an authentic laugh, or reassurance that kindness and generosity are still all around us.

11 Rules You Will Never Learn in School
This video is now saved in my "watch with Will and Hallie" folder.

In honor of Mother's Day...I am the Keeper
I see you. And I salute you.

No one loves fall as much as this dog.
Except maybe me.

The Spring Mom Struggle
Anyone? ANYONE?!

Kids should be in charge of naming all the things.
On a related note, if you see me in person, ask me to tell you about Will and his armpit confusion. I can't share it here because he's a tweenager, but I'm allowed to share it in real life.

An incredibly interesting take - written by a well-known elementary school principal - on the ongoing college admissions scandal.
This makes SO MUCH SENSE.

I love "music videos" like this one.
And I've loved this song forever.

I want this "firevase" video to be legit...
If it is, I will be first in line to make a purchase.

How to Create a More Peaceful World, courtesy of Jane Goodall.
I love her.

For those of you with tween or teenage daughters (or sons), this article - about reframing anxiety and strengthening resilience - might be helpful.
"Anxiety is a normal and healthy function, and much of the anxiety that teenagers express is a sign that they are aware of their surroundings, mindful of their growing responsibilities, and frightened of things that are, in fact, scary."

#FridaysForFuture
I strive to be more like 15-year-old Greta Thunberg.

As we near the end of this compilation, a laugh: What It's Like to be a Kid Today
The comedic stylings of this 14-year-old are a little crass, but they're also spot on and quite funny.

And to wrap things up, another laugh: one man's take on the absurdity of Peleton advertisements. Reminds me of this take on the Williams Sonoma catalog, which when I read it for the first time had me crying out loud in my McOffice.

The Mother Tree

Last year my mom sent me a Mother's Day card. Inside she shared the poem below, written by Susan Notes Anderson, followed by her own words - also below - on the meaning of its lyrical verses. As I feel somewhat short on my own words to accompany Mother's Day this year, I have decided to share these. They are beautiful and heartfelt and perfect for this special holiday.


A woman is a treat of life; the heavens know her grace.
In her is found an essence that eclipses time and space.
She reaches heavenward, her fingers branching toward the sun
And winds her roots through rocks and dirt
To bless the work she's done...to feed and anchor tender shoots by her good seed begun.

~

Is there anything in nature more beautiful than a woman who plants her roots deeply enough to bring forth strong branches and green leaves? Like a majestic tree, she offers shelter to all who seek her. She loves and is love, nurtures and is nurtured.

A woman who finds good ground blesses the lives of others and, in doing so, her own.


Happy Mother's Day to all those celebrating (and hugs to those for whom today hurts), especially my mom, grandma, mother-in-law, sister Sara, sis-in-law Chandi, and village of mama bear friends. I love you all, and cherish our unique and special connections.

For fun, here are a few of my favorite past Mother's Day posts.

• Just Keep Showing Up
• Happy Day to All the Moms
• I Know You, Mama

Cheers to Teachers

One day during his kindergarten year, Will came home from school and told me the world was flat. I gently corrected him, but he argued his position for quite some time. It seemed he had misunderstood or misheard his kindergarten teacher, Mrs. Pratt, when they were talking about the shape of our planet, and he wouldn't let it go. Finally he turned to face me, put his hands on his hips, and declared, "Well MAYBE, Mom, Mrs. Pratt is smarter than you".

It was the first time Will had - at least verbally - considered the possibility that another adult might be smarter than his parents, and I might have felt a little defeated if I hadn't loved Mrs. Pratt almost as much as Will did. She helped all of us transition smoothly into elementary school, she kept careful watch over Will as we navigated his first non-peanut-free academic setting, and she fueled his love for learning by keeping him engaged and challenged. She was - is - an incredible teacher, and we were lucky that both Will and Hallie began their elementary school careers in her classroom.

Mrs. Pratt and Hallie at her kindergarten music program.

Why am I sharing this seven-year-old story and talking about teachers? This week is Teacher Appreciation Week. In just 17 days, Hallie and I will walk out of Will and Hallie's elementary school for the last time. In honor of this (both celebratory and heart-breaking) milestone, I decided to publicly share my appreciation for all of the teachers and administrators Will and Hallie have had the honor  their elementary years.

Mrs. Pratt - kinder, both Will and Hallie
Mrs. Trotter - 1st, both Will and Hallie
Mrs. Burkhalter - 1st, both Will and Hallie
Mrs. Bedard - 2nd, Will
Mrs. O'Quinn - 2nd, Will
Mrs. Williams - 3rd, Will
Ms. Shimek - 3rd, Will
Mrs. Barker - 4th, Will
Mrs. Decell - 4th, both Will and Hallie
Mrs. O'Neill - 4th, Will
Mrs. Gallagher - GT, both Will and Hallie
Mrs. Romero - GT, Hallie
Mrs. Lipscomb - 2nd, Hallie
Mrs. Roddy - 2nd, Hallie
Mrs. Stephens - 3rd, Hallie
Ms. Steiner - 3rd, Hallie
Mrs. DeVerna - 4th, Hallie
Mrs. Bratcher - music, both Will and Hallie
Mrs. Dean - art, both Will and Hallie
Ms. Harris - art, Hallie
Mrs. McCabe - computers, both Will and Hallie
Coach Weldon - PE, both Will and Hallie
Coach Ledyard - PE, both Will and Hallie
Coach Lynne - PE, Hallie
Coach Benevidas - PE, Hallie
Mrs. Witte - librarian, both Will and Hallie
Ms. Rhodes - librarian, Hallie
Nurse Benedict - lifesaver, both Will and Hallie
Ms. Ballard - Principal, Will
Mrs. Hannath - VP, both Will and Hallie
Mr. McIntire - Interim Principal, Will
Mrs. Jones - Principal, both Will and Hallie
Ms. Sanders - VP, Hallie
Mr. Durand - Principal, Hallie

Every single one of these incredible educators had a positive impact on our lives. Some more than others, and some in more obvious ways, but as we officially leave behind this academic stage, I can say with certainty that Will and Hallie wouldn't be nearly as successful - insightful, creative, hardworking, and kind - if they hadn't spent their elementary years learning from these Rock Prairie teachers.

This week I lift my glass - and I hope you will too - to all of the teachers in your life. Those you know and love (a special shout out to my sister, Sara); those who taught, guided, loved, and supported you; and those who have done the same for your children.  

This list doesn't include the many custodial staff, kitchen staff, paraprofessionals, aides, student teachers, methods students, specialists, etc. who while not directly teaching Will and Hallie, still contributed to their elementary experience. Cheers to them as well!

High Five for Friday (5.3.19)

One

On Friday evening we attended - and helped coordinate, per our role as a PTO family - our last Rockin' 'Rangler Picnic. This entire semester feels like one long farewell to childhood (not in a good way), and Friday night was no exception. Nevertheless, we had a great time watching the kids burn off excess energy in the bounce houses, get their faces painted, select their balloons animals, and play with their friends.

Two
My parents came to visit for the majority of the week, and were able to join us for the picnic and a variety of other both special and mundane, every day events. It was wonderful to catch up with them, and we were particularly grateful for their help around the house and shuttling the kids to and from school, dance, and soccer.

Three
The original reason behind my parents' visit was Hallie's birthday. Or more specifically, Hallie's birthday gift, which was tickets for my mom, Hallie, and me to see Matilda the Musical in Austin. Since she received the musical's soundtrack from her Aunt Sara three weeks ago, Hallie has learned almost all of the words to almost all of the songs, and she adored singing along - sometimes in her head, sometimes quietly but out loud - with some of her newest favorite characters. The show was incredibly well done, and reminded us how much we love musical theater.

Four
The last week has been a busy one school-wise. Will participated in - and I baked lemonade cupcakes for - his school's Lemonade Day (students learn how to start and operate a small business) and Hallie participated in her school's Science Expo (she presented on "Cat Genetics: Why Does That Cat Look Like That?"), and my parents and I were able to attend both events.

"Aloha Summer Lemonade"...

...selling Mama Ferris' famous lemonade cupcakes!

Hallie and her poem puzzle watercolor painting. (The
poem is a puzzle, and she had to paint a picture that would
help parents figure out to what the poem was referring.)

Hallie's project and presentation were on cat genetics.

Five
Happiness Highlights

Tux brought Will a snake and left it in the fort that Will and Hallie
had built and in which they had planned to sleep. Thankfully, these
three brave souls found and removed the snake from the premises.

Shopping with Grandma and Grandpa at Lake Walk Market. We scored
lots of fresh, delicious goodies and enjoyed the almost summer-like weather.

Hallie, Grandma, and I climbed the observation tower. I didn't die.

"Boozy cupcakes" from Symmply Sweets - SO delicious!

A quick stop at Blue Bell Park on our way to
soccer practice with Aggie Coach G at Ellis Field.

Will and Hallie could have posed all evening.

A full year after the amazing Shannon Morton took
this gorgeous picture of Hallie, the professionally
framed version finally made it onto her wall.

Happy Friday, friends!