Monday, October 16, 2017

House of Mouse

Y'all.

After a busy afternoon and evening, I finally had the kids fed, bathed, and in bed around 8:45pm. I took a shower, put on my pajamas, and settled in to tackle a few work- and PTO-related projects. About 10 minutes later, I heard Tux at the backdoor, meowing to come inside. I set down my computer, walked to the kitchen, and opened the door.

Tux bounded out of the dark night and into the dark kitchen making a strange noise. He ran frantically through the house until he skidded to a stop in the living room...where he proudly dropped a mouse - a very alive, very terrified mouse - on the rug. (I mention the dark night and the dark kitchen because when coupled with a dark cat and a dark mouse, they made it impossible for me to see that Tux had a mouse in his mouth when he was outside and also once he came into the house.) I screamed louder than I have ever screamed before in my life, jumped up on the chair, and called my friend and neighbor, Rebecca. 

I called Rebecca because as bad luck would have it, Tom was in Austin at a conference. Why do these things always happen when the bravest family member is gone?! 

I asked begged - as calmly as possible (which apparently wasn't very calmly, because later Rebecca told me that she thought I was either hysterically crying or hysterically laughing) - if she would send her husband, Matt, over to help me catch the mouse. Matt arrived two minutes later. #bestneighborsever

Matt and I began assessing how to best capture the still very alive and very terrified mouse. For a while Tux helped us by keeping the mouse contained under the entertainment center, but eventually he gave up and flopped down on the living room rug to watch us work. Meanwhile, Rebecca arrived and brought with her our friend, Jenn, with whom she'd been working out at the gym when I called. #bestfriendsever

For what felt like 15 minutes (it may have only been five - I have no idea), the four of us chased the mouse around the house with flashlights, brooms, and tupperware containers as it darted in and out of various rooms. Will "helped" by standing on the kitchen counter, screaming intermittently, and taking pictures of the chaos.

Eventually Jenn - my hero - trapped the mouse beneath a tupperware in the dining room and Matt - my other hero - slid a pizza box under the tupperware container and transferred the mouse out of the house and into the backyard. When all was said and done, we sat back and surveyed "the damage" (most of the furniture in my living room had been moved and there was dust everywhere), Will finally climbed down from the counter, and we all laughed about how much "fun" we'd had catching a mouse. Oh, and Hallie slept through the entire scream-laced adventure.

Below are a sampling of the pictures Will took. As you can see, most were taken from a vantage point above the ground (perched atop the counter) and nearly all are blurry, which I think captures the chaos of those minutes.

An exciting night in the House of Mouse!

Tux had already left a dead lizard in Tom's shoe earlier in the week, so the mouse really pushed me over the edge. Tux's punishment will be to wear his Halloween tutu, sit in the corner, and think about what he did. 

Friday, October 13, 2017

High Five for Friday (10.13.17)

1. On Friday night I hosted a Noonday Collection party. I learned about the company and purchased a few lovely pieces - bracelets and earrings - a couple of years ago, but this was the first time I had ever brought the company's story into my home. For those of you who are unfamiliar, Noonday is a socially responsible business that uses fashion to create meaningful opportunities across the globe. Noonday believes in the dignity and power of work, and its business model focuses on empowering artisians and creating dignified jobs in vulnerable communities. After a L...O...N...G week, it felt wonderful to gather with friends in support of such talented and worthy women.

2. On Saturday afternoon Will's soccer team earned its second win - and he tallied his first assist - of the season. After a couple of tough losses the two weekends prior, these boys needed a victory to boost their spirits. They may have played "on the surface of the sun" (as I like to describe what it feels like to watch a soccer game in 90+ degree temperatures and direct sunlight with no breeze), but sweating through every inch of my clothing was worth it to see my boy shine.

3. On Sunday afternoon we wrapped up Will's birthday celebrations. He had a wonderful few days, and I'm grateful to everyone who helped make his week a great one!
Putting out the balloons after Will fell asleep on his birthday eve.
Blowing out the candle in his breakfast donuts.
Birthday dinner and cake #1 at Rosa's.
Dabbing in his new dabbing skeleton soccer player shirt.
Cake #2 - a Pac Man video game.
Blowing out the candles as an 11-year-old!
4. Oh, how we needed a day off from school on Monday. Our day was still busy - we worked out at the gym, shopped the school book fair, went to Hallie's parent-teacher conference, got our flu shots, and then finished out the afternoon with three dance classes and a soccer practice - but not having to wake up in the dark (I can't wait to "fall back" in a few weeks) and hurry through our morning routine made all the difference.

5. Happiness Highlights:
Tux seems super excited about his Halloween costume.
He's going as a tutu-wearing girl version of himself. 
😍
As I said when I texted this picture to their moms, this picture
looks a lot sweeter than the music they were playing sounded.
I loved watching them create their masterpiece though!
My parents retired recently, so this description by Erma Bombeck
made me laugh out loud. "Showed me how to walk with my legs spread
apart so I wouldn't wear a path down the middle of the hallway carpet." 
Our elementary school principals set the "cool"
bar pretty high - princess dresses and scooters!

Happy Friday, Chasing Roots!

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Wednesday, October 11, 2017

Texas Bows (Take 2)

My apologies to those of you who are seeing this post for the second time. For some reason it went up accidentally on Monday, two days early. Oops!

I have an almost seven-year-old niece, Lily, who lives in Illinois. We see Lily and her family a few times a year, and because at least one of these visits takes place here in Texas, she already knows quite a bit about the Lone Star State. (Example #1: Lily Football. Example #2: "I Love Texas".)

Recently Lily approached her mom - my sister, Sara - and asked Sara if she would, in the future, purchase only Texas hair bows. Confused about what exactly that meant, Sara asked for clarification. "Texas bows, Mom. You know, super big bows."

Lily speaks the truth: everything - hair bows included - is bigger in Texas. (I honestly couldn't believe the size of the hair bows moms put in their little girls' hair when we first arrived from Michigan.) And luckily for Lily, she has an aunt who is happy to replace those little Illinois bows with great big Texas bows.

For fun, here is a photographic timeline of the progression of Hallie's bows. Evidently, the longer we live in Texas, the bigger her bows!
A Wisconsin bow...
And then they get bigger...
...and bigger...
...and bigger! (I used to think Lily was looking
adoring at Hallie...now I wonder if she's
looking adoringly at Hallie's bow...)
Status: True Texan
(Ok, this is a wreath bow Hallie and I found at Hobby Lobby.
We couldn't resist taking a picture with it in Hallie's hair.)

Monday, October 9, 2017

5K for 5K

We want to “travel the world” which starts with one country. We want to “get in shape” which is the result of healthy, mindful habits. We want a “meaningful career” which for most people comes after a lot of trial and error. It doesn’t arrive to you one day. You arrive at it after years of showing up and trying a little harder than you did the day before.

This story is not about a particularly amazing feat, physically or emotionally. But it is my story of achieving something big by doing many small things.  

This story belongs not to me, but to a good friend of mine. Katie and I met in sixth grade, at the beginning of middle school. I honestly can't remember our first encounter, but I believe we found each other through mutual sixth grade friends and became close when we realized we scored similarly low on the tween coolness scale. Picture big pink glasses, high-wasted cotton shorts, and frizzy hair styles circa 1991/92 and you have some idea of what Katie and I looked like as our friendship took flight.

Katie and I remained close throughout our high school years, and once we headed off to college in different states (and then moved even further away from one another after college) we stayed connected by catching up in person when back in Madison and using various forms of social media.
The summer before we left for college (I think).
Katie's on the far right and I'm in the middle in yellow.
Katie was kind, fun, and funny, and back then she seemed to me extremely confident in who she wanted to be, what she wanted to do, and where she wanted to go. I know she is still kind, fun, and funny, and judging from her latest ambitious endeavor, she remains as confident and goal-oriented as ever.

A couple of years ago and inspired by Dean Karnazes' Ultra Marathon Man documentary, Katie set for herself a big-picture goal of running a 5K in all 50 states. She had, as she put it, "the time, the interest, and the will to always want to be able to run a 5K". She had friends living across the country, and was looking for a reason to travel back to some of her favorite states as well as to those states she had yet to visit. And she had the ability to recognize that the only way to achieve something big is by achieving something small, over and over again.

As of my most recent check, Katie has run in 37 states and Washington D.C. When I asked which of these runs had earned the status of "favorite", she gave me more than one. "This is such a tough question!! CT was exciting because it was the first intentional run. VT was powerful because it brought an epiphany of the kind of changes I wanted to make in my job and relationships. ME and VA were some of the most beautiful routes. Those were also two states I ran when I reconnected with old friends from college, which made both of those runs extra special."
Oregon
Alabama
Washington D.C.
West Virginia
Michigan
Recently Katie decided to expand on her goal of running a 5K in all 50 states by attempting to turn 5K into 5K...in monetary donations to support the Southern Poverty Law Center.

Southern Poverty Law Center aims to "fight hate and bigotry and seek justice for the most vulnerable members of our society...and works toward the day when the ideals of equal justice and equal opportunity will be a reality." I won't ask you to make a donation, but if you find yourself looking for a way to make a difference - or to just do something - in the midst of this heartbreak in which we as a country find ourselves, I encourage you to read a little about this organization and consider supporting Katie as she aims to achieve something big by achieving something small, over and over again.

Next up for Katie? Perhaps the national parks in Utah or Las Vegas, Nevada. She's also always on the lookout for an inexpensive ticket to Alaska!

Friday, October 6, 2017

High Five for Friday (10.6.17)

1. Last Thursday I had the privilege of spending my entire afternoon with this sweet girl. Baby Aubrey belongs to the incredible nurse at Hallie's elementary school, and I loved getting to cuddle her for three-and-a-half hours. Well, three hours...the last 30 minutes belonged to Hallie.

My fellow PTO Board members and I like to joke that we're a "full service" PTO: we'll raise your money, we'll appreciate your teachers, and we'll watch your babies.

2. I spent Friday night at Messina Hof Winery celebrating a wonderful friend's birthday. We had dinner in the Vintage House Restaurant, and then "retired" to the wine bar for a nightcap. Great friends, great wine...and great Messina Hof Gewürztraminer Raspberry Chipotle sauce. If you ever visit Messina Hof, either order a dish that comes with this sauce or purchase a bottle to take home.

3. While I toasted Nuria, Tom took Will and Hallie to Cavalry (Will's soccer club) Night at the Aggie Soccer Game. Before the game Will and his teammates were introduced to the crowd, and then at halftime they scrimmaged on the field to keep the fans entertained. Oh, and the Aggies won, 2-1 - not bad for a Friday night!
Not sure what's going on with "grumps" there...

4. On Wednesday my sweet boy turned 11 years old. I'll post a bit more about his birthday once all of the celebrating has wrapped; in the meantime, a high five goes out to him for being such a cool kid and to our entire village for helping us raise him into the kind, hard-working fifth grader he is today.

5. Happiness Highlights:
If Hallie sets her backpack down in the mornings, Tux occasionally
uses it as a bed. It slows us down, but it also makes Hallie think that Tux
doesn't want her to leave and that ALWAYS puts a smile on her face.
I have looked for this picture for months - I thought
 it was lost forever - and this week it finally appeared!
On Sunday night Tom and Hallie had a back porch date to watch (as
well as sing along and dance along to) Moana and work on the light suit.
He was finally allowed to bring his bow home!
Oh, my heart.

Happy Friday, Chasing Roots!

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Wednesday, October 4, 2017

11

11 years old. Fifth grade. It doesn't seem possible.

Much of what I wrote last year still rings true. He enjoys and does well in school, even taking on - all for the first time - a seven-period schedule, two advanced classes, and a musical instrument. He gravitates toward competitive sports, but focuses primarily on soccer and running. He dreams of following in the musical footsteps of either Pentatonix's Kevin Olusola on the cello or The Beatles' Ringo Starr on the drums. He plays a mean game of chess, saves his money and free time for Beyblades, and loves a good video game tournament with his dad on the weekend. I am - we are - extraordinarily proud to call him ours.

He has settled - somewhat comfortably but with a few bumps - into his tween years. I no longer walk him to and from school, check his homework folder, or keep an eye on him during soccer practice. He can fry eggs, vacuum his bedroom, and clean toilets. He has plans for his own small business and can operate every piece of technology we own. This beautifully complicated stage of life is - at least to me as his mother - both tremendously satisfying and utterly heartbreaking.

Satisfying because Tom and I must have done something right to have raised such a kind, hard-working, self-sufficient 11-year-old. Heartbreaking because the years we have left with him under our roof are dwindling more and more quickly. No, he isn't yet preparing for his driver's test or packing for college (thank goodness), but he has begun to step away from me.

I try to remind myself that we are in a good place. That this growth is good. That the oft deliberate and occasionally unintentional separation of mother and child is good. As parents, we train our children to be, among other things, independent. We hope and pray that one day they will leave the nest as strong, confident flyers. The problem lies in the simple fact that "good" and "easy" don't often go hand in hand.

As he gets older and steps further and further away from me, I hope he finds his way here - to Wiggles (our first family blog) and to Chasing Roots. I hope he reads the stories, hopes, dreams, frustrations, and challenges I have affectionately shared about him, triggered by him, and with him in mind. I hope he can feel in my words the depth of my love for and pride in him.

In this vein, I decided to this year begin compiling for him a list of life lessons. Should a time come when either I can't or he doesn't want me to share these words of wisdom with him in person, he can find his way here.
  • When you introduce yourself, stand up, make eye contact, and shake hands with a firm grip.
  • Hold the door and offer your seat.
  • Use "please", "thank you", "excuse me", "Ma'am", and "Sir".
  • When in doubt, dress up. 
  • Keep people's secrets.
  • Never turn down a breath mint.
  • Give credit where credit is due.
  • Take responsibility for your mistakes.
  • Leave the world - its people, places, and things - better than you found it.
  • Be strong enough that people know not to mess with you but soft enough that they know they can hug you.
  • Eat your vegetables...but eat that cupcake too.
  • When all else fails, go for a walk.
  • Floss your teeth.
  • Don't give up until you're proud.
  • Remember who you are and that I love you.

Happy 11th birthday, Will. I love you to the moon and back plus infinity times a million with a cherry on top.



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