Friday, December 11, 2020

High Five for A Decade

As of today, we have been residents of the Lone Star State for...TEN YEARS.

10 years ago we packed up our house, watched our belongings disappear into a moving van (not to reappear for more than a week), said goodbye to our friends in Ann Arbor, Michigan, and hit the road, bound for Texas.

In an attempt to save a little money, we opted to drive both cars rather than have Tom's car towed behind the moving van. This meant that both Tom and I drove the entire way to Texas, and that when the kids were awake (we kept them together while they were awake and separated them during nap time), the parent with whom they were riding was singularly responsible for feeding, entertaining, and tending to them. Whew!

We were on the road for four days, and made overnight stops in Iowa City, IA; Lincoln, NE; and Norman, OK. (Not the most direct route, but we stopped to see and stayed with family members and friends along the way.) When we arrived in College Station, we picked up our keys and crossed the threshold into our new (temporary rental) house. The kids took to the house - and the weather - immediately, and settled in much more quickly than either Tom or I did.

Here's what I wrote about College Station after living here for about a month:

The pace of life is a little slower – I notice it in particular on the roads, but also in line at the grocery store, at restaurants, and when I drop off and pick up Will from preschool. People are generally friendly. The local barbecue and Mexican food is delicious, but many of my favorite restaurants and stores haven’t made their way here yet. There is a disc golf course on campus for Tom, but he has yet to encounter a Texan who actually knows what disc golf is. The daytime winter temperatures are mild, but the nighttime winter temperatures are still quite cold – in the 20s or 30s. I’m certainly not complaining about the weather now, but I can guarantee I will be come summer when the highs are in the 110s and the lows are in the 80s. In the "we’ll have to get used to this" category: most people drive huge pickup trucks or SUV's at least twice as big as Tom’s car, there are drive-through liquor stores that advertise drive-up windows large enough to accommodate semi-trucks, and some bars provide patrons with a to-go cup for unfinished beers. Just a few miles out of College Station is a "Cowboy Church", which church-goers attend on horseback. On the same stretch of road as the Cowboy Church we saw an entry to a ranch adorned with recently-slaughtered MOUNTAIN LIONS. So yeah, that’s what I can tell you about Texas so far.

At the time, we expected to stay in College Station for three years, or perhaps six at most. (Three years and six years weren't arbitrary time frames - each marked an important hurdle in Tom's career as a professor, and had his work not been going well, would have been a good time for us to move on.) We thought we'd settle in here, maybe enjoy a few years of not having to shovel snow, but that when the time and the right offer came, we'd move back to the Midwest to be closer to our families and for Tom to work at one of our/his alma maters. 

Best laid plans, amiright?

The funny thing is, the "right" offers did come. And each time we decided to turn them down in favor of staying...for a little while longer...for a little while longer...for a little while longer...until one day we woke up and discovered that College Station had become home.

That's not to say we haven't at times taken issue with our adopted hometown. No city or state is perfect, and College Station and Texas are no exception; we struggled to adapt to, accept, or tolerate certain aspects of life here, while we unexpectedly embraced other aspects, including ones we had expected to dislike. The bottom line is that each time we weighed the good against the bad, the good won out. 

So today I raise my glass to a decade in Texas. Cheers to 10 down, and many more to come.











































Tuesday, December 8, 2020

Wish Me Anything You Want

Portions of the content below appeared on Chasing Roots last December, and the December before, and the December before that. I believe that this post - with a few updates - and its overarching message deserve a share every time the season for "wishing" arrives. 

I grew up in an ethnically and religiously diverse community. Because of the plethora of religions supported, holidays celebrated, and traditions followed (and not supported, celebrated, and followed, for that matter - the Freedom From Religion Foundation began and is still based there), and because my hometown has earned its reputation as "the land of the perpetually offended", very little related to religious holidays could be found in public buildings and schools throughout my childhood years. We never sang Christmas carols or wore Santa hats in school, and in 1987, the Christmas tree that had stood proudly in the State Capitol rotunda every December since 1918 was renamed a Holiday tree in an attempt to make the building feel more inclusive and avoid irritating those who didn't celebrate Christmas.

To be clear, I understand why the tree was renamed. A Christmas tree in the State Capitol building is hardly a separation of church and state. It's not the point of my post though, so I'm moving on.

In 2011, Governor Walker re-renamed the tree, this time back to a Christmas tree. "It's a diverse state", Walker explained. "I think it's a reflection of the many wonderful traditions in the State of Wisconsin." During the month of December, the Capitol rotunda also hosted a Menorah, Festivus trees, and a nativity scene mocking Christmas, so it seemed more people were "represented" in their State Capitol building.

Again to clarify, I understand why the tree was re-renamed. Just changing the name of an object long associated with a religious holiday doesn't necessarily lessen the association between the two. It's not the point of my post either though, so I'm moving on again.

In 2019, and try to keep up here, Governor Evers re-re-renamed (no, I'm not kidding) the tree, this time back to a Holiday tree. 

Obviously I'm moving on again, but I wanted to first make sure those of you who read this post every year received your annual Wisconsin State Capitol tree update.

Pretty...and pretty controversial.

Growing up, I learned to wish people "Happy Holidays" during the month of December. I used this phrase, and this phrase exclusively, until a few years ago, not because it's lovely and inclusive (though it IS lovely and inclusive, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with wishing someone happy holidays), but because I honestly worried about offending someone.

I now live in a completely different kind of community from the one in which I grew up, so out of curiosity, a few years ago I ran an (uncontrolled) experiment. While shopping and running errands during the two weeks leading up to Christmas, I recorded what people "wished" me. I didn't track what they said when I spoke first (because people often respond by repeating whatever phrase they hear), only what they said when they spoke first. I expected to find that in my current community, I would hear "Merry Christmas" more than 90% of the time. On the flip side, I expected to find that once I arrived in my hometown, I would hear "Happy Holidays" - or a wide variety of holiday wishes - more than 75% of the time.

Imagine my surprise when here in Texas I heard "Merry Christmas" six times and "Happy Holidays" six times. I was even more surprised when in Wisconsin I heard "Merry Christmas" seven times and "Happy Holidays" five times.

Tom would have me review my methods, analyze my data using formulas and equations, and submit my results to you in the form of a journal article, formal paper, and presentation, but there's a reason he's a professor and I'm not. I don't care to do any of that; I don't really even want to think about my incorrect predictions.

I do, however, want to focus on how wonderful it felt to be wished anything at all. I celebrate Christmas, but would never take offense if someone wished me Happy Hanukkah or Happy Kwanza or even just Happy Winter. I would never complain about someone wishing me happiness, in any way, shape, or form.

I love that my current community now embraces "Happy Holidays" along with "Merry Christmas". And I love that my hometown community seems to be moving toward the same place of acceptance.

The beauty is in the wishing, folks. So with a kind heart, wish people a happy whatever-you-want - Christmas, Hanukkah, Full Moon, Tuesday, winter - and with a graceful heart, accept whatever they feel moved to wish you.

Friday, December 4, 2020

High Five for Friday (12.4.20)

Last week and this week were tough. A couple of the toughest we've been through in a while. (So much for a relaxing Thanksgiving break...) Our quarantine bubble, which we all worked so diligently to protect, was broken, and as a result, one family went down with COVID-19 and the other two had to quarantine.

There are always would haves, could haves, should haves in situations like these, but the fact of the matter is that the three families in our bubble were as careful as we could realistically be - working from home whenever possible, virtual school, masked extracurriculars, curbside pick-ups, porch deliveries, small and outdoor gatherings only, no travel - when interacting with the "outside world". But no bubble is perfect, and we all knew that going in, collectively agreeing that the benefits - our mental and emotional health, as well as the mental and emotional health of our children - outweighed the risks. 

We didn't know, however, that the contact tracing systems in place in our community and schools would fail our bubble quite so substantially. I won't go into detail, but I will say that if contact tracing had been done correctly, it's likely our last week and a half wouldn't have looked nearly as isolating, frustrating, and scary.

That said, there is always something for which to be grateful...


One
We had a lovely Thanksgiving. We missed our extended families (and cooler, fall-like weather), but appreciated time together just the four of us...plus one cat and four kittens. 


Two
After falling in love with Bader, our family besties applied to adopt him, were approved as his new family, and welcomed him into their home. Bader's new name is Binx, and he is as loved and adored as any kitten has ever been in the history of the world. 


The hardest part about fostering kittens (besides cleaning up strange poops in strange places and trying to protect the Christmas tree), is saying goodbye and never getting to see them again. Binx's adoption by our friends means we'll be able to watch him grow up, and we're thrilled about it.

In honor of (or perhaps in memory of, by the time anyone reads this post) our Christmas tree: 
Peppermint Patty (the instigator, and the one
who taught the other three how to climb the tree)

Ginsberg

Bader/Binx

Ginsberg and Ruth

Three
My Christmas cards are in the mail, and all of the Christmas presents I needed to mail to family members have been delivered to UPS. I have high hopes that while I may not have beaten the rush when it comes to this year's shipping armageddon, I have given USPS and UPS plenty of time to deliver everything to its intended recipients.

If your Christmas card has a cat hair on it, this is why... 😬

Four
Speaking of USPS and UPS... 2020 felt like the perfect year to bring back my "thank you for your service" front porch treat bins for our delivery personnel. I'm so grateful for these essential workers, and this is just one way we can let them know how much we appreciate them.

Five
Shortly after my dance mom friends (our "dance family") found out we were quarantining, treats and goodies started arriving on our doorstep: delicious cookies, candy, and hot chocolate; cute arts and crafts projects; cozy holiday socks; lovely Christmas decorations; relaxing at-home spa supplies; and generous gift cards for food delivery. I've said it before but I'll say it again, I adore and am so grateful to be a part of a group so committed to showing up for each other in times of need. (Thank you, friends! 😘)

(Bonus) Six
Happiness Highlights
Hallie's American Girl Doll checked into the doll hospital
for a quick head replacement, but now she's good as new!

My friends and I had planned to make wreaths for my
birthday, but that didn't happen as planned. I did, however,
make my wreath at home with Hallie's help!

Children of the 90s - remember this phrase? I wore my "Soccer is Life...the
Rest is Just Details" shirt almost every day. (These masks were a fundraiser
for our dance studio - cute, comfortable, and sold for a good cause!)

We grew a second lemon!

Fun with filters...

Ginsberg fell asleep chewing on Hallie...

...and stayed asleep when she moved her finger.

CHRISTMAS THROW PILLOWS!!!

Beautiful.

Peppermint Patty was only with us for five days,
but we loved having another tuxedo cat in the house.

Our local PBS affiliate broadcast Ballet Brazos' 2019 production of
The Nutcracker on Thanksgiving. Hallie was SO excited to see herself
on television and to dance along with the entire show. We're all missing
Nutcracker something fierce this year...

Hallie set out all of her Christmas decor - American
Girl and other - and her room feels festive and fun. 

Happy weekend, friends!

Tuesday, December 1, 2020

Monthly Medley: November 2020


Writing
Many months ago I wrote an article for Texas Living about hotels that take their Christmas decorations and celebrations to the next level. And then COVID happened... A few days before the article was scheduled to go to print, we realized it needed a serious overhaul, and so I spent a panicked week contacting the hotels and rewriting almost the entire article. It came out on time and turned out alright, thankfully, and you can find it in this month's issue!

Reading
Hip hip hooray for Thanksgiving Break, which gifted me the time I needed to finish my November book. The courtroom drama The Holdout, by Graham Moore, was recommended by someone I follow on Instagram, and I would recommend it right alongside her. It grabbed my attention immediately, and kept me interested and engaged through the final page.

Watching
Is anyone else as happy as I am about the return of "regularly scheduled programming" on cable? I missed my scripted television shows, and have enjoyed once again having new episodes waiting for me in the DVR queue. I've also been impressed with how well many of these shows built the events of 2020 into their plot lines; the Grey's Anatomy season premiere did a painfully beautiful job of addressing the pandemic, while All Rise took an honest and poignant approach to the Black Lives Matter movement.

Will and I were both excited to watch the US women's national soccer team take the field after an eight-month hiatus. Our World Cup champions and Olympic gold medalists beat the Netherlands 2-0, which was the icing on the cake. 

We kicked off our holiday season viewing with Christmas Vacation, and then we moved on to a few shorter Christmas specials. Next up: Home Alone, Home Alone 2, and Elf!

Listening To
I shared last month that I planned to check out two new podcasts this month, and I actually followed through on that plan! Brainwashed - a short, six-episode investigation into the CIA's covert mind control experiments - was equal parts disturbing and fascinating, and I highly recommend based on both content and production quality. Daughters of DC, on the other hand... I listened to exactly seven minutes before I had to turn it off. This podcast plays out as a story with different characters, and the actors' voices drove me crazy; I never could pinpoint exactly what it was about them that rubbed me the wrong way, but I knew I couldn't listen any longer. I also got the feeling that I might be about 20 years older than this podcast's target audience, so it's probably best I walked away. 

Otherwise, I spent the first half of November catching up on new episodes of old favorites Criminal, Cold Case, and Crime Junkie (it seems I have a favorite type of podcast...) and the second half of November listening to Christmas music. It's all Christmas, all the time now, friends!

Following
  • If you need a pick-me-up, check out Upworthy (@upworthy) for feel good posts of all kinds...which I'm finding are more important than ever right now.
  • Fans of The Nutcracker will love following along with The Nutcracker at Wethersfield (@nutcrackeratwethersfield and www.nutcrackeratwethersfield.com). This "brand-new, live, immersive, reimagining of the holiday classic for safe family viewing" was created and will be directed by the talented Troy Schumacher and will star our beloved Ashley Laracey as the Sugar Plum Fairy (Troy and Ashley are married). Though we won't be able to attend the show in person in upstate New York, watching the rehearsals and preparations unfold has been fascinating!

Trying/Using
After using Shutterfly almost exclusively for the last few years, I decided to give Minted a try for this year's Christmas cards. Minted doesn't offer the same extreme discounts as Shutterfly, so I opted in to the Minted More membership which, for about $30, saved me 30% on my cards and earned me 20% off on any additional Minted purchases I make throughout the year. I must not have read the fine print though, because I didn't realize that my membership included a cute throw pillow, six lovely greeting cards, and a fairly substantial collection of wrapping paper, gift bags, gift tags, and ribbon, all of which showed up about a week after I joined. The amount of money I saved on my cards far exceeded my initial $30 investment, AND I ended up with a lovely bonus gift, so I'd consider Minted More well worth the money and highly recommend it if you're still shopping for a holiday card vendor!


I have no affiliation with Minted or Minted More. I'm just a happy customer!

After years of admiring the loads of subscription boxes out there, I finally committed. A friend discovered that Causebox was offering PMD products with their fall box, so we decided to give them a try. I opted in to only a single box at first, just to see if I liked what the company had to offer. And while not every item in my box was a win in terms of being something I'd use on a day-to-day basis, all of the products were of a remarkably high quality. I also like that Causebox focuses on creating a "greener, fairer, kinder way to shop" by offering only "ethically made, sustainably sourced, and cruelty free products". I've decided to officially join, as members have more say in what they receive in their boxes; I'll let you know what I choose for and receive in my winter box in a couple of months!


The PMD products that came with the Causebox were also winners. I might not have splurged on them if I'd had to pay full price, but with the Causebox deal I couldn't pass them up. So far I really like both the PMD Personal Microderm Classic and the PMD Clean, and while I haven't quite mastered the technique needed for the microdermabrasion, I'm working on it. (I wanted to share that piece of information in case you see me in person and wonder why I don't already have dramatically younger looking skin 😉).

Wearing
This category has, over the last few months, gone from my least to my most favorite one to write. A shirt update is coming, of course, but before we get to shirts, I want to share a couple of my favorite new and affordable loungewear-turned-everydaywear pieces. (Because for the love of 2020, we deserve to wear loungewear a little more frequently than we have in the past, amiright?)

And now, for the moment you've all been waiting for... November's shirt haul! (It's probably starting to seem - if it didn't already seem - like I have a problem with shirts. Truth. But the beauty in this problem is that I share it with two others, and shopping for all three of us each time we buy shirts makes the anticipation, the reveal, and the matching incredibly fun.)
I can't recall where this tee came from, but Mandi
chose it because it fits us better than I care to admit.

Jenn picked this tee out from one of our faves - Saturday
Morning Pancakes - and it's perfect for the Thanksgiving!

I chose this one - from another favorite company called
Little Mama Shirt Shop - because I love the movie Elf, we
all three love The Nutcracker, and the sentiment behind the
saying fits this year perfectly. I also opted for a sweatshirt over
a tee for the first time - wishing and hoping for cool weather!

This one also came from Little Mama Shirt Shop, and
I couldn't pass it up for our three little besties who love
dancing...especially together and to Christmas music.
I'll probably buy it for us mamas as well...

Eating/Drinking
Summer may be over according to the calendar, but summer's weather is still hanging around...like a party guest who just won't go home at the end of the night, when you just want to load the dishwasher and go to bed, summer weather just won't go home at the end of its season, when I just want to pack away my shorts and open the windows.

Now where was I going with that? Oh yes, recipes. 
  • This Fresh Summer Goulash was easy and tasty. I cut the recipe in half and added about a cup of squash (just because I had one that I needed to use), and everyone enjoyed it!
  • This Corn Salad also felt as summery as it was delicious. I followed the recipe exactly (a rarity for me) and it went over incredibly well.
  • This simple Crockpot Chicken Noodle Soup, while not at all summery, also hit the spot on a cool(er) evening. 

Feeling Good About

What's new and interesting in your world this month?